What Happens When Someone Pays You for Something?

I realized that I have a bizarre belief that made itself known this week.

When I am on the buying side of a transaction: no matter how much I like or want whatever I bought, whether it was something tangible or a service, spending ANY money at all harms me.

I'm telling you about this not because I want to expose the dark recesses of my brain which still harbors beliefs from childhood (Money is to be hoarded, never spent. Always get someone else to pay.) Yikes.

I'm telling you to encourage you to look at your own buying beliefs.

From observing clients and myself closely, I am seeing that buying and selling are married to each other. If I ACTUALLY believe that when I spend any money, I harm myself, how in the world can I ask someone to spend their money on my services?

The short answer is, I can't.

Do you have a buying belief that influences you getting paid for your work?

Here are some examples:

1. Salespeople always lie.
2. Buying something is a competition. Someone has to lose. (Car buying, anyone)?
3. The lowest price is always the best price.
4. My time doesn't count.
5. Expensive things are never worth spending money on. (or vice versa).
6. Spending money will make someone angry (especially a partner/spouse) so I should hide my spending.

Any of these resonate? Can you list some of your own?

Our beliefs, many of them created in childhood, serve to protect us. They simply want us to be safe, and they'll do whatever it takes.

If you stumble across a money belief that's not serving you anymore, email me. I'll help you explore it for 15 minutes and give you a tool you can use to make friends with it, and others you discover.

How you do one thing is how you do everything

My friend and brilliant photographer and see-er Siddiqi Ray always says to me: "How you do one thing is how you do everything."

Sometimes I want to argue with her, but in this case she's right.

I'm wishing you much love, and a peaceful relationship with selling AND buying.

I'm here if you want to check out my program and other cool stuff I love to do.